That Explains It

Today a story on CNN.com is why we marry people who are like our parents. I already knew this....but it just confirms my suspicions.....

"Sometimes, people choose mates who resemble their parents not because of fond memories, but to make amends for an unhappy childhood.

"This is most common if you felt rejected or abandoned by a parent and still haven't worked through it," says Stephen Treat, director of the Council for Relationships, a Philadelphia nonprofit. "Your psyche wants to go back to the scene of the crime, so to speak, and resolve that parental relationship in a marriage."

Women who felt abandoned by their fathers are likely to choose emotionally unavailable husbands, for example, and men raised by hypercritical moms will be drawn to wives who pick on them, he says.

It's not a good idea. "You think you'll be able to heal this way, but you're probably no more equipped to deal with the situation than you were as a child, and the parental dynamic gets repeated in your marriage, usually with bad consequences," he says."

No wonder!!! lol....if you know me. I hope you got a good laugh out of this.